A few months ago I took part in a 5-week entrepreneurial training in the USA, where I met new people and created some great friendships. One of the meetings, however, stood out from the rest.
It was held in one of the top floors of a tall building in New York and was with two multimillionaires that were 80+ years old. Rumor has it that one of them was even a billionaire. The things they said before us were a clear indication of their in-depth business experience and they were able to establish authority pretty fast.
Initially, they held a short lecture before us, after that, we had time to ask questions. So we split into two groups with one millionaire in every group. That was the moment I was waiting for. My question was “What is the most important lesson, you’ve learned so far.” Most people think a little bit longer before they give an answer, but he was quick to respond.
Here I want to give you the three lessons that he shared with us:
The worst almost never happens
Don’t lose time to prepare for the worst or to worry about it, because it is most likely will never happen. The energy that you use to worry is a loss, because it doesn’t help you achieve your goals, but instead works against you.
I’ve learned a similar lesson from one of my favorite books – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. There he says that in every situation that bothers you and spoils your peacefulness you have to ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen. Then you have to accept it. In most cases what you realize is that the worst is not so bad and the chance of it happening is almost always slimmer than you thought.
In both life and business, you will have influence other people and get them to do things for you (that sounded bad but it is the truth). You can do it in two ways – by violence (which is not an option) and by empathy. It is, therefore, necessary to focus on empathy and to understand the person in front of you, his desires and goals.
Here we go back to the book of Dale Carnegie – How To Win Friends And Influence People, the core of which revolves around empathy and understanding of others. If you haven’t read it, you just have to do it. Reading this book is not a matter of choice, but a must-read for every serious person.
Always look at the big picture
What happens to many entrepreneurs (and not only) is that they stop looking at the big picture, but instead they focus on the details. This is not always a bad thing, but you should not lose connection to the big picture, as well. You should always know what is the purpose of your project or the business you’ve started and the desired result that you are aiming at.
He also added that you should not try to win small battles by a lie because it will harm you in the long run. I think he was talking from a first-hand experience.
Those were the three lessons that I learned from this amazing person. I hope you enjoyed reading this article.
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All the best!